The post office, grocery store, and convenience store…these are just a few of the places we’ve been lately where I have literally wanted to SCREAM. For some reason, my sons have a hard time controlling themselves when we’re out and about. We’re talking about running circles in the post office, pushing on the levers of the fountain drinks in the convenience store, and throwing a gigantic fit whenever someone has to get in the cart at the grocery store.
They are wild things. Seriously.
I just don’t get it. I try to set the expectation before we enter, but it just seems like that all flies out the window the moment we enter the threshold. And there are two of them…which means they egg each other on. Taking one child to run errands is a dream. Add the other child in there and it literally becomes a nightmare.
My children are usually well-behaved. And they have the SWEETEST, most tender little hearts. They are just BOYS with a capital B! I really do not believe they are acting in defiance, I just think they cannot control their impulses very well (especially when the brothers egg each other on).
And part of the problem is that I have way too high of expectations. I should just expect chaos (because that’s what it always is) and then be pleasantly surprised when they are well-behaved. Instead, I think I almost expect perfection from my children, especially if we have talked about it ahead of time.
I realized that this is the opposite of how God has treated us–He knows we are incapable of living up to His expectations (and the entire Old Testament is there to prove it). Instead, He chose to give us this amazing thing called “grace” through the sacrifice of His Son.
Rather than expecting perfection from my kids, I need to emulate the Ultimate Parents and learn to embrace the chaos…and give a little grace in the process. :)