The thing about my kids getting older is that they have opinions…at times, strong opinions. Although I love that they are becoming more and more independent and freely asserting themselves, when these opinions clash it pretty much feels like World War III (not to be confused with World War Z …no zombies here …although I sometimes feel like one). ;)
In order to stop sibling fighting and remedy the clash of the titans that happens pretty much daily in our home due to such horrible circumstances like not being to decide which TV show to watch or which board game to play, we created a new system:
Yep, just like in basketball…only applicable in every other area of life as well.
Here’s how it works…
I have written both boys’ names on a piece of card stock and put it on the refrigerator. Each day, the clothespin is switched to the other child’s name (once Baby Girl gets old enough, her name will be on there as well).
When they can’t make a mutual decision on something, we call a jump ball. The child whose name is touching the clothespin gets to make the decision for that day: which board game to play, which movie to watch, which lunch to eat (because I refuse to make two different lunches for both kids–I either don’t give them an option or they must agree on something they will both eat). The clothespin is then placed on the other child’s name the next day.
(Obviously, this method isn’t appropriate for every situation and we still have the right to exercise parental authority when we see fit, but it is definitely helpful for the little things.)
I first thought about naming it Kid-of-the-Day. But when I was telling Prince Charming about my idea, he replied, “Oh, kind of like a jump ball…where the team with the arrow gets the ball and then the arrow switches.”
Here’s to a summer with less bickering!!!
What is your go-to method to keep your children from bickering?