Did you miss last week’s post? Catch up on the first three chapters of Be the Mom here.
Just a quick word before we dig into this week’s reading: This is supposed to be a book CLUB. That means that there are other people participating and sharing their thoughts besides myself. There were zero comment and zero link-ups in last week’s post–which was very disappointing for me because I want to know what YOU think about the book!!! I know for a fact that many of you have purchased/borrowed this book and many of you are reading it…so please take a few short minutes to leave your thoughts! And don’t forget…you have direct access to the author of this amazing book, Tracey Eyster. If you leave a question, you have the opportunity to have it answered from an AUTHOR and a veteran mom. How cool is that?!?!
Okay, stepping off my soapbox…
This week in our reading of Be the Mom, we discovered two more traps that moms can easily fall into: The Martyr Mom and the Busy Mom. I, unfortunately, can admit that I have been guilty of getting caught up in both of these traps!
Chapter 4: The Martyr Mom Trap
This premise of this chapter was all about how the “Woe is me” attitude about the daily grind of motherhood is really just evidence of an ungrateful heart. Tracey steps on our toes a little bit by not allowing ourselves to make excuses for an Eeyore-like attitude.
“My inability to find enthusiasm and joy in everyday momlife wasn’t the fault of my circumstances; it was the condition of my heart. The daily attitude a mom transfers to those within her home is a choice. You must embrace each day as an opportunity to influence those whom God has entrusted to you within your home and community.” -p. 55
Altering this attitude problem doesn’t just take “wanting” to fix it, it means taking action. Tracey outlines a few steps to action on page 45. I’m going ahead with step 1 by admitting that I sometimes have an Eeyore-like attitude about my job as a mom!
In addition to our attitudes, I was very convicted by the section on not being a sideline mom (in fact, it was what inspired my 30 for 30 Challenge in June). I have improved since this challenge, I am still often guilty of watching my children instead of playing with them. Although I don’t believe that every minute of every day should be spent entertaining our children (lest we feed into the entitlement/self-centeredness epidemic), but I DO believe that they DESERVE their mom’s undivided attention for a good chunk of the day.
Chapter 5: The Busy Mom Trap
When I first began reading this chapter, I was pretty certain that I hadn’t completely fallen into this trap. After all, I have gotten pretty good at saying “no” to things. However, when I began to examine my life, my priorities and how I spend my time…I realized that I have, in fact, fallen victim to yet another trap. Even though I don’t often overcommit myself outside our home, I can DEFINITELY overcommit myself WITHIN my home (especially when it comes to this little blog of mine).
This particularly hit home…
“…if a child wanders into the room when I’m in task mode, I can stop what I’m doing and spend some intentional time with him. When he’s ready to move on, he’ll go off and do his own thing again, and then I can finish up my task. That way, the task is left waiting, not the child.” -p. 67
Parenting these precious children of ours is the greatest and most important job we will have in this lifetime. I want my children to know that I took the time to teach them about God and to teach them to serve others…and, of course, to know that they are loved fully and completely by their Mommy.
Next week’s Assignment: Read Chapters 6 and 7 (and leave your comments, please!)
Do you have any questions for the author? Leave a question in the comments and we’ll choose a few to have Tracey respond to in next week’s post!
What did you think about this week’s reading? Leave a comment or link up below!