Our assignment last week was to read Chapters 4, 5 & 6. The farther along I get into this book, the more these two things come to mind:
(1): Most of the examples she gives are beyond the capabilities of my 4 1/2 and 2 1/2-year old sons.
(2): High expectations for working in the home need to be set during the preschool years (maybe even toddler years). This way, it becomes a routine and behavior that a parent can slowly build on.
Obviously, I can’t send my 4-year old to get a job outside of the house (which is what Chapter 4 was all about). However, this doesn’t mean that we can’t begin encouraging a hard work ethic now (and perhaps even have him do small things for family members or close friends in the years to come to get experience of doing work/service for someone else). Perhaps then we won’t be receiving quite as much pushback and frustration that the children, tweens, and teens in the Wyma family are experiencing. Here’s to hoping, anyway! :)
The chapter on learning to clean bathrooms (Chapter 5) resonated with me because I honestly don’t think I had ever learned to clean a bathroom (well, anyway) until after we were married and had a house of our own. My mom was and is an amazing mother and would do anything for her children…but I think that perhaps I allowed her to do a little bit too much for me and didn’t take more responsibility while living in my parent’s home.
With that being said, Chapter 7 reminded me of a friend of my husband’s work that stayed in our home a few times last fall (for just one night at a time). I was always so impressed whenever I would go into the room after he had left. Before he left our home, he stripped the sheets off the bed in the guest bedroom and then made the bed (which literally has 16 pillows on it…I just counted). I was so impressed and remember telling him, “No one has ever stayed in our home that has left the room looking immaculate like you did…you even remembered to take the sheets off the bed!” He quickly replied, “My mom made sure I knew how to be a guest in someone’s house…and she also made me start doing all of my laundry when I was 13.”
That’s how I want our boys to be. I want them to be thoughtful of others, especially when they are staying in someone else’s home. I want them to know how to do laundry well before they get married…not just because it’s a skill that everyone should know, but also because it is an act of service and humility to do such menial jobs as laundry and cleaning a bathroom.
When we teach our kids to take responsibility for jobs that need to be done around the house, we are teaching them to take pride in what they have. We are teaching them that they are certainly not too good to scrub toilets and sort laundry! And we’re teaching them that even a successful person must
With a little inspiration from this book and some brainstorming about morning routines (especially with school quickly approaching), I came up with something that has worked wonders for Big Brother. This is the first of many habits I hope to instill…but I’ll share more about that tomorrow! Stay tuned!
Your assignment for next week: Read Chapters 7, 8 and 9.
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