I didn’t intend to start a journal for each of the boys. It actually came about on whim (as with many things in my life). When I found out I was pregnant with Big Brother, I was in shock. We hadn’t really expected it to happen as fast as it did. During my plan time the following day at school, I was trying to process it all…how excited, scared, nervous, and joyful I was. I opened my desk drawer and pulled out an empty journal (the one on the bottom in the photograph below). I began writing a letter to the unborn life inside of me. I shared how we found out, how I told Prince Charming, and all of the emotions I was feeling. I continued to write in the journal for Big Brother about once every month or two from then on.
Once I found out I was pregnant with Little Brother, I wanted to do the same thing. As I was perusing the journals at Barnes and Noble, I then had the idea of creating a journal for Prince Charming and me (I was inspired by John and Elizabeth Baxter’s relationship in the Redemption series by Karen Kingsbury). Even though I’m the only one who has written in our journal (uh-hum), I know it will be a treasure for all our life together…a record of the season’s of life that have come and gone and how God’s love has carried us through it all.
I’m not sure when I will give the boy’s their journals. I write the letters to them, not like they are babies, but like they are adults. Perhaps when the graduate high school, get married, or have their first child. Or maybe I’ll share special letters with them at pivotal times in their growing up years to show how much they are loved. And as morbid as it may sound, as least they will have something of me if anything should happen.
I also keep a personal blog with pictures, milestones, and funny things they say, but their journal is for especially for them. There are things I tell them in their journal that I wouldn’t necessarily share with the entire internet. And I think there is power in the hand-written word. I would LOVE to type everything out because it is so much faster, but handwriting will soon be a lost art. Plus, it seems more personal. Right or wrong, a handwritten card in the mail means more than a quick e-mail…even if they say the exact same thing.
I love looking back and reliving the memories…reading about how I bawled my eyes out as I read Love You Forever to Big Brother when he was a day old, the fear and complete dependence on God when the OB told us they detected an irregularity with Little Brother’s heart, and the scriptures that have touched my heart at different times in our journey together.
There are lots of options for journals here, or you could even make your own! And if you’re interested, my friend Julie also has an amazing idea for creating prayer journals for her children each year here.
What about you? How do you record your child(ren)’s milestones and memories??