What is it about the two letters, “N-O” that make a child feel so powerful? I’m not really sure, but if you have the answer…let me in on your secret!
Lately Big Brother has been using this word quite often. After evaluating some of the situations where this word seems to be said most often, I found a pattern that may partially explain.
My husband teases me when we go to a restaurant because when it is my turn to order I say something like, “May I have _____?” rather than just telling the server what I want. This is the exact same thing I apparently do with my own children.
I’ll ask Big Brother things like, “Are you ready to eat?” “Do you want to go potty?” “Do you want me to help you with that?” Of course, his answer is frequently a big, fat “NO.” And I don’t blame him…if he has the choice (which he really doesn’t, but the way that I phrase the question makes it sound like he does), I wouldn’t want to stop the fun thing that I am doing to do something as mundane is eating or using the potty.
So, I am curbing my behavior in order to impact Big Brother’s behavior. I’m no longer asking…I’m telling. And not in a big, mean authoritarian way…in a loving, guiding way.
I’ll keep you posted on whether my behavior change results in fewer “No’s” around here…
Parenting is certainly a journey. The more of the journey we travel, the more I realize that I have got A LOT to learn. :)
What has been a lesson you have learned this week?